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(CNN)In a world where people struggle with anxiety, depression and burnout, therapist Nedra Glover Tawwab has some solutions.

Setting boundaries with others can help ward off some of these issues, said Tawwab, who wrote "Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself." But increased pressure during the pandemic to do multiple tasks at work and at home has made boundary-setting even more difficult, she noted, forcing people to reevaluate their lives and to learn to say no.
Nedra Glover Tawwab"Life is filled with lots of choices, and I think of boundaries as choices," she said. "People will always want you to do something. If we always do what people want us to do, we will be very busy."
    In a discussion with CNN, Tawwab helped illuminate choices so people can reclaim control of their lives, establish healthy boundaries and enjoy rewarding relationships.
      This conversation has been edited and condensed for clarity. Read MoreCNN: What connection have you seen between pandemic burnout and the workplace and boundary setting? Tawwab: Many of us were already burned out, and the pandemic just really took us there. It made us evaluate the factors that were leading to the burnout. For many of us, it was work and the unhealthy relationships we were in. The pandemic highlighted something that was already there.
        CNN: How do you think these factors contributed to the "Great Resignation"?Tawwab: At the beginning of the pandemic, many of us were put into situations that we never could have imagined. We know now that life can be flexible, we know that we can manage multiple roles. People are trying to figure out how to make a living without making that their entire life. We're in a state of reevaluating what feels important. It may not be worth it to put ourselves through things that we are dealing with at work.Tawwab's "Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself" suggests ways you can learn to say no.CNN: For someone who has never set boundaries before but knows a change is needed, where do you start?Tawwab: Start with your feelings. Where are you feeling frustrated or resentful? When those feelings come up, what are you doing in response? Are you tolerating it, or are you trying to make a difference in your life? It will be helpful if you started to make a difference by saying, "This is a space where I need to say no." We need to create spaces where people can focus on what they need without being overloaded with tasks.CNN: Why is it so hard for people to say no?Tawwab: It's not about always being compliant with everything that someone requests of you. Sometimes you need to push back, sometimes you have questions, and sometimes you need support. You have to figure out how to balance the energy of wanting to be liked and wanting to be a good worker.CNN: How do you strike that balance, and how do you know which side you need to be on?A stressful 2 1/2 years led some to reevaluate their lives. Here, health care workers check a Covid-19 patient.Tawwab: Recognize your capacity. When do you get anxious or frustrated about doing things? When do you start to notice your mood shifting toward your coworkers or loved ones because you're irritated? Dig into what you feel when you're asked to do another project. What comes up for you? Are you becoming anxious? Do you have time to fit this in? Are you starting to have a physical reaction to taking on too many things? That's where you learn to place a boundary.CNN: In your work as a therapist, have you seen correlations between increased anxiety, lack of boundaries and workplace stress over the last two years?Tawwab: I think workplace anxiety shows up as unintentional slowdown. You become laxer in your duties, in an unintentional way. You become more stalled, worry about completing things, or you're anxious about how this person might feel if you say no. There is anxiety around the way in which you can complete your job duties. I've seen it most show up as a slowdown and a lack of drive and determination.CNN: What guidance do you have for people who know that they need to have a difficult conversation? Key questions you should ask before deepening your relationship, according to expertsTawwab: People have said no before, and I think our brain tricks us. You do know how to say no to some things, but you don't know how to say no to everything. There are other areas in life where you say no -- what makes you feel comfortable in those spaces? And what makes you feel uncomfortable in these spaces? We have to walk ourselves through "Why do I think that this is going to backfire? Why do I think this will not be well received?" Lots of times it is a narrative that we're telling ourselves and rarely is it the truth.CNN: What about sensitive conversations where the stakes are higher? For example, with a boss, parent or in-law. Tawwab: Start with vulnerability. It can be helpful to tell people, "For my mental health, I cannot commit to doing this extra thing because I'm already spread thin." Use words to describe what mental health is. What you might be going through is anxiety or feeling overwhelmed, and you might say, "I'm overwhelmed with tasks. I get very frustrated because I can't find the right words to say no. So, when you challenge me, it makes me feel as if it's unsafe to say no." Saying no in the workplace can be difficult but may be necessary sometimes to avoid potential burnout.CNN: What if that person thinks you're being disrespectful or rude? How do you navigate that conversation? Tawwab: I think a lot about family with this. Explain that you understand it was probably different with your parents and list the things you have in common: "We believe in love, community, connection, togetherness. I believe that it's OK for me to have a difference of opinion. That doesn't mean that I don't believe in love, community, connection, togetherness. It means that my opinion is different about some things, but I still love family, even if I'm trying to have some things that are different for me."CNN: During the past two years, people have started to learn about the things that make them work and live better. For those who are self-driven, what tips do you have so they can curb potential burnout?Tawwab: We drive most cars in the range of zero to maybe 80, and mostly around the 40-to-55-mile marker. You can't exist at 80, and you can't exist at zero. Many of us will try to exist at that higher number, and it's like you're speeding through life. These are the signs that youre in a toxic work environmentYou're missing all the important moments because you're not able to slow down. There's something about taking the scenic route at times because life is to be enjoyed. Intentional slowdown is important. We need to practice being less productive and figure out how to be restful.CNN: Over the past two years, did you have to create new or break old boundaries?
          Tawwab: I have been practicing intentional boundaries around how I allocate time. Sometimes in our race to be busy and to be productive, we're just saying yes. Sometimes a present-day yes is also a future yes -- so I think, "Is that going to bleed into Christmas? So let me say no in advance. Because I know I won't be available -- I will be watching everything that Hallmark and Lifetime has to offer."

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          Former Dancing With the Stars Contestant Dies at 53

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          Actress and “Dancing With the Stars” contestant Anne Heche died on Friday, August 12, 2022, a week after being involved in a fiery car accident on Friday, August 5, 2022.

          The news was confirmed by Heche’s friend, Nancy Davis, in an Instagram post.

          “Heaven has a new angel,” she wrote. “My loving, kind, fun, endearing and beautiful friend @anneheche went to heaven. I will miss her terribly and cherish all the beautiful memories we have shared.”

          She added, “Anne was always the kindest, most thoughtful person who always brought out the best in me. She was so supportive with anything she could do to help @racetoerasems and would always say yes when she knew she could contribute something with her time, talent and creative genius to help find a cure for MS. My heart is broken.”

          The star leaves behind two children, both sons who were born to her exes. Her oldest son is Homer Laffoon, 20, and her youngest is Atlas Heche Tupper, 13. Heche was first married to Coleman “Coley” Laffoon, a real estate broker with whom she shares Homer.

          Atlas was born to Heche and her ex-boyfriend, James Tupper in 2009. Tupper is a Canadian actor, and he met Heche on the set of “Men in Trees,” according to Hollywood Life. The couple separated in 2018.

          Heche was the daughter of Don Heche and Nancy Heche. She told ABC News in 2001 that she was sexually abused by her father, who had been dead for nearly 20 years at the time of the interview. Months after her father died, Heche’s brother, Nate, died in a car accident, according to the New York Post.

          Heche first gained recognition while acting in the soap opera “Another World” in the late 1980s. Then, Heche starred in “I Know What You Did Last Summer,” “Six Days, Seven Nights,” and “Return to Paradise.”

          She also earned recognition for her work on Broadway. The star was on the 29th season of “Dancing With the Stars” where she competed alongside professional dancer Keo Motsepe.

          Heche was also known for her high-profile relationship with comedian and talk-show host Ellen Degeneres. The couple started dating in 1997, and they broke up in 2000, according to ABC News.

          At the time of the accident, Heche was part of several ongoing projects. “Girl in Room 13,” a Lifetime movie, will premiere this fall. She was also in a horror-thriller “Full Ride” and in Sam Levinson and The Weeknd’s HBO show titled “Idol.”

          Heche Was Involved In a Fiery Car Crash View this post on Instagram

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          Heche was involved in a fiery car crash on Friday, August 5, 2022. She fell into a coma from which she never regained consciousness, her representative later shared in a statement to People.

          Los Angeles Public Information Officer Jeff Lee explained that Heche’s vehicle, a blue Mini Cooper, was “traveling at a high speed when it ran off the road and collided with a residence,” according to CNN.

          A statement from the Los Angeles Police Department obtained by ET Online stated that the crash occurred at 10:55 a.m. PT when a “vehicle collided into a residence located at 1700 block of Walgrove Ave.” LAPD did not identify the driver or any injuries, though the officer told the outlet the driver was taken to the hospital by ambulance.

          59 firefighters worked for over an hour to put out the flames.

          According to CNN, LAPD is investigating the crash as well as a “misdemeanor hit and run” incident.

          According to the original report by TMZ, Heche initially crashed into an apartment complex’s garage but “sped off” after the incident.

          Law enforcement officers told the LA Times that the actress was “deemed to be under the influence and acting erratically.”

          The Crash Is Being Investigated as a Felony

          According to USA Today, Heche was being investigated after her accident in order for LAPD to determine if drugs and/or alcohol was a factor in the crash. Later, CNN revealed that the crash was being investigated as a felony.

          LAPD Officer Jeff Lee told CNN, “Her blood showed signs of impairment and that is why it is now being investigated as a felony traffic collision.”

          “The blood draw results showed a presence of narcotics but additional testing is required to rule out any substances that were administered in the hospital,” he stated.

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